One of Nightline’s late evening news topics on Monday, May 21st touched on the inside secret to the Swingers club. And as I was watching this show, they spoke about how there is a new modern-day twist with young married couples who choose to swap out partners.
Swapping out partners or “swingers” are nothing new. Swingers are married or unmarried couples who are looking to “spice up” their sexual relationships by allowing other married or unmarried couples and singles to join them.
Couples who openly swing or swap partners for a night of passionate sex with strangers, are becoming a growing trend in a sort of new sexual relationship revolution – and those who swing say the rest of us monogamists are missing out.
National surveys suggest as many as 60 percent of marriages involve cheating. One study conducted by the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors showed that in the last two decades, the number of unfaithful wives under the age of 30 increased by 20 percent and number of unfaithful husbands under 30 increased by 45 percent.
The modern twist with today’s swingers consist of being:
- young and attractive
- not jealous
- being open
- dating as a couple
The swinging websites have noticed an increase of young women joining their sites – it’s not for the 35-50+ yr old couples anymore of the 70′s. They are seeking other couples to engage in sex and seem to justify what they are doing – as ok. Some couples feel as long as they don’t “kiss” then they are not being as intimate. And others say “swinging, instead of cheating, has saved their relationships.”
Even though this is the new way of looking at swinging – swinging is still not acceptable in God’s eyes. In other words, adultery is adultery is adultery! Just because both married couples choose to live a lifestyle where others are invited, doesn’t mean its right.
Leviticus 20:10 says “If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife – with the wife of his neighbor – both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.” When God ordained marriage, he ordained it between a man and a woman to be pure. For Hebrews 13:4 says “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
This so-called modern twist on being a swinger again is nothing new. Satan has convinced our youth once again that something old is new again. He wants the purity of marriage to become impure because it goes against God.
Swapping out partners can also promote:
- Additional promiscuity. You may want to continue venturing out (without your partner) to fulfill more and more desires.
- Jealousy. Even though jealousy is not supposed to be a factor. After sometime, your spouse may desire or compliment the other partner more. Or may even want to spend more time with that partner.
- Sexual transmitted diseases or unwanted pregnancies. Being safe is supposed to be the number one factor in all of this. But after spending time with the same partners or “being in the moment” can create times where practicing safe sex goes out the door. And as we know, nothing is full proof, so sometimes an unwanted pregnancy can become a factor that ultimately changes lives.
Young people today have to realize that these types of lifestyles are only temporary fixes to bigger problems. It seems as though this modern take on swinging eliminates responsibility of being truly monogamous to their spouse. It gives them an “out” to cheat.
God will forgive the adulterer – if they only ask. But when you are living a lifestyle that goes against God’s word on purpose, then that’s another story.
Tell us your thoughts! Do you feel that the swinging lifestyle is ok?
Be blessed, Wanda